Friday, March 6, 2015

"The Talk"

Hey all!  Sorry, I haven't written in a while.. a long while.

I wanted to share something with anyone who still might read my blog.  Maybe get some advice on how to approach this situation.

A few months ago, I had an inkling that my 11 year old daughter might be going through puberty.
These are the signs that made me wonder.

  • She started to wear underwear under her night shorts.  (she never used to)
  • Anytime, anyone walked into the bathroom while she was in the shower she would freak out and act like she's guarding a precious jewel.
  • Lastly, I noticed little nips poking out from her shirt.

So, one day I had to know, so I asked her.

"Emilie, do you have hair on your too-too yet?"

Emilie turns bright red and answers "I don't know."

I knew damn well she wasn't going to tell me anything.   So I had to take matters into my own hands and find out.

She was in the shower one night and I went into the bathroom to pretend I was doing something super important.  Of course, she stuck her head out of the shower to make sure I wasn't going to steal her precious jewel.  I turned the water on in the sink and pretended to clean up the vanity area.

I very carefully and quietly tip-toed over to the shower (a whole 3 feet) and ripped open the shower curtain.
Of course, she freaked the hell out.. I would have too.
But, damn-it I'm the mom!  No secrets from the mom!
She was so startled that she didn't know which part of her body to hide, her above or below.  She chose her above.

Holy, crap on a stick my 11 year old had a bush!
I was in shock, not an 11 year old!  That's too young.

So after that, I decided that we needed to have a talk about a woman's body.

I tried to explain to her about what happens to a girls body and what changes happen and why.

She wanted no part of it.  She cried the whole time.  She said that she was just embarrassed and she didn't want to talk about it.
Oh well, I told her.  We have to talk about it.  My mom never talked to me about any of it and it really sucked finding out on my own or from my stupid friends who really knew nothing.

So, I
talked and she cried.

But, now I just saw a video on Facebook about having the "Birds and Bees" talk with your child.
I only talked to her about a freaking period.  How the hell is she going to react when she finds out how a baby is made!!

I thought this video was hilarious!  But, I thought the kids were way too young to talk to them about how babies are born.

Or, is it just me?  What age did you talk to your kids about sex?

If you haven't seen the video I'll post it at the end of my rambling.

I think I picked up so good examples from the video on how to talk to her about it.

Shit, maybe I should have them both in the room.  Andrew is 5, maybe he needs to know about it too.
It would also, make it not so weird for me and Emilie to talk about it. Andrew will be very dramatic and I know it will make her laugh.

So, please share your thoughts with me.

Video source:  Upworthy

Thanks for reading.