Tuesday, October 9, 2012

My first therapy session

Everyone knows the old saying:  "Treat others how you want to be treated."
We try to instill that old famous quote in our children.  

But, have you thought about that quote when we talk to our children?
To be brutally honest, I never have until today.
I'm not a complete bitch to my children, but sometimes, I don't treat them, how I would like to be treated. Or how I would want other people to treat my them.
I thought to myself, why would I do that?  Is it because they are younger than me? Does that make me superior? 

Our children look to their parents as role models and if we are lucky, damn lucky we will become their idol.

It really upsets me when I think about how I've talked to my daughter.  Not so much my son, he's still little, cuddly and pretty much listens when I ask him to do something. 

My daughter is 8 years old, and I know I've repeated that quote to her many times.  She is a very nice girl, and is respectful to other children. (for the most part.)

So, this is what I'm going to do.  When she does something that is really stupid and could have been avoided if she took the time to think about it.  I will talk to her nicely without attitude or snotty tone.  And, most importantly without negative words!!
From what I'm gathering here from my Therapy Session is, I must assume somewhere in my bird brain that she should know how to solve that particular problem.  Well, maybe she really doesn't!

I want her to look up to me as a positive role model when she's older. I don't want her to think of me as a bitch or something worse.

She gives me such an attitude sometimes.. It just blows my mind.  Now that I sit here and think about it, maybe she is learning that from me! UGH!!!  Maybe she feels threatened when I give her "attitude."

As a grown woman if another adult give me attitude, it puts me in attack mode.  I know I'm not the only one either.. but, why would I do that to my child?

From what I'm gathering here from my Therapy Session is, I must assume that she should know how to solve that particular problem.  And, when I realize she doesn't know how to deal with it she gives me attitude or she breaks down all together.

My final thought on today's session is, I've bitched many times that my daughter acts like a baby sometimes and throws fits.  So maybe, when I change my attitude she will watch and learn?
One can only hope.


Thanks for reading.


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